28 September 2013

Rachel from Davenport, IA & Scott from Hastings, NE  


"Abortion is murder. Anyone who calls themselves 'pro-choice' condones murder."

My friend Rachel isn't one to mince words; certainly not on this occasion. We went to school together and have been fairly good friends since then.

Rachel is also the mother to a beautiful, hilarious 2-year old girl named Eve. If you were to imagine having a child, Eve is who you'd want your kid to look like. Thin blonde hair, always a smile and some sort of ridiculously adorable giggle coming out of her mouth. Spending time with Eve always makes your day!

Rachel posted one day on Facebook: "Obama is responsible for the murder of 800,000 children every year; re-post if you agree and want to do something about it." While we never really established what that "something" was, I engaged Rachel on the topic. A heated back-and-forth followed:

"Rachel, do you really think that one man is 'responsible' for this? We can all agree that abortion is a terrible thing and should never be an option, but to place the blame for all abortions on one man because of his office is rather disingenuous."

"First of all, it's not just Obama. It's Pelosi, Reid and anyone else who is pro-choice. Abortion is murder. Anyone who calls themselves 'pro-choice' condones murder. I don't expect you to understand this because you love the president, but open your eyes."

"I don't think it's constructive at all to call thousands of sometimes-nervous, scared, confused women 'murderers.' Everyone approaches life from their own perspective with their own circumstances. Doesn't the Bible tell us not to judge? And besides that, isn't it our duty--not government's--to help these women in their time of need? We are the ones who should help them through the decision, whether that ends in adoption or not. Not all problems have government solutions; women who decide to have an abortion are not criminals and--in fact--will have to live with that decision their entire lives."

"OK, let's go over all of the ways that this is so wrong. First, it's disgusting justification. If I kill someone, they don't have the freedom to live the rest of their life. If you kill a baby before it is born, you are doing the same thing. Second, the government is funding abortion clinics and buying the votes of these women so I don't really trust those criminals to do anything on the issue. Third, it is not my fault that someone decides to have unprotected sex and get pregnant. Sex has consequences and you have to deal with them. You shouldn't get to kill a baby and then go back to the mall and shop at Deb's like nothing happened. That's heinous."

"I'm not going to get into the argument over when a fetus is really 'alive' because I don't think either of us will change our minds on that issue, and to be honest, I'm not really sure where I stand there. But it isn't important. You are telling me that your solution to unintended pregnancies ending in abortion is to do nothing as a society but criminalize these women who are already making a decision under extreme duress? I'm not advocating for an abortion free-for-all. Abortions should be, as a former president once said, 'safe, legal, and rare.' Women should be able to live in a society where they feel like, if they get pregnant, it is not the end of the world. That their families, friends, neighbors and communities will be their for them to help make sure they don't lose their jobs, that they can finish school, and that their lives and dreams can still go on. This is what I'm talking about here. Like I said, I would never counsel any woman in my life to terminate a pregnancy like that; but I think that's much easier said than done for some who fear the repercussions and would fear even more being labeled as 'criminal' in a society that would shut them out forever after that."

"If a guy fears his neighbor without provocation, can he walk over to his house and shoot him dead just to get rid of the emotional problem? NO, that's MURDER. So is abortion. Also, you don't have to advocate for an abortion free-for-all because IT'S ALREADY HAPPENING. Look at the numbers--800,000 murders each year don't lie. I really don't have time for this, and you can't wiggle your way out of the fact that this is a heinous, dastardly act that should be punished, not rewarded."

Don't worry, Rachel and I got past this heated exchange. But conversations like this happen all the time in America, and since the passing of Roe v. Wade, consensus on this issue has been seemingly impossible. Politicians and citizens alike come to loggerheads as they attempt to classify--without remorse--every single human being as either "pro-life" or "pro-choice" with no possible middle ground.

But then there is Scott from Nebraska. Scott gave what I consider to be the best answer when asked to "classify" himself. If more Americans worked for the solutions he advocates, we could seriously decrease--and eventually eliminate--the numbers of women in this nation that choose to end their pregnancies in abortion.

We have to work together again to fix things and to help one another. No one in this country is ever alone or without a steadying hand.

On this issue, the time we spend arguing and classifying each other is time we should be spending on helping to reach that ideal number of abortions in this country:


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